If we don’t think of men as fathers, we are only getting a part of the package. On Mother’s day we had a chat with young mothers to get a feel of being a mother. After all it was their day. Unfortunately most of the times it’s the children who have so much to say on this day. So we decided to give young mothers a voice. Young enough to be children and experienced enough to be mothers. It came out that parenting is already difficult role, but even more challenging is being a single parent.
“It’s just difficult!”, Beauty Simbanegavi said, acknowledging that mothering is only a part of parenting. Beauty is an actor, radio personality and backing vocalist for the renowned Thomas “Mukanya” Mapfumo. Her job and life experiences have given her insight and time to think about this issue. Edith Mudzemeti who was raised by a single mum, echoed Beauty’s sentiments. Edith shared a story in which she had backed her mum into a corner and the parent had to explain her actions. In her explanation, the mother pointed out that she was in demanding position where she had to be both a mum and a dad. It was only in retrospect that Edith understood, only when had her own children.
So now on Fathers Day it’s important to think about and appreciate the role of men as fathers. You may think of how he is so charming or rich or powerful but give time to think of him as a father. He may be selfish and cunning but still there has to be a moment when he has to be a father. Factor in the complications when you decide to get into the relationship. And appreciate the smoothness if there are no complications.