If you have been hurt once or twice you may become less trusting in a relationship. You become more cautious or more treacherous. How cautious can you be? You begin to guard your heart against heartbreaks. It’s kind of hard to enjoy a relationship that way; insulated from the pleasure. Or how disloyal can you be? “Everyone cheats, why not me”, a girl would say. But is that how you want it? In the end we either get lucky or get hurt again. That is because we see the red flags in a relationship but we ignore them.
Before we go on, it’s important to mention that all relationships are different. There is no formular to falling in love. All we have here are eye openers. The thing is we get into relationships with hope of good things. The hopes may not be high but once you get into something, it always has a chance of growing. When you see the red flags in a relationship you ignore them because, maybe, you don’t want it to be true. You don’t want the pain that comes with finding out the truth. You can also lie to yourself that the relationship is not serious, so you don’t worry about it. As time goes on, you may begin to think that things will change. You will commit more. Failed expectations and there you are in wishing you hadn’t ignored the signs.
The solution is to be truthful to yourself and to communicate with your partner. Even if you are not fully committed, take everything seriously. Ignoring something now may lead to future regrets. It may not be a serious relationship but your heart is almost always at stake. Avoid that heartbreak.
